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Taking Back… Me

So, I had a wonderful conversation with myself in the car today. I spoke to myself about taking seriously things that are said just to harm me, harass me, or by negative individuals who don’t necessarily mean to harm me, but whose words paint nothing but their own negativity and insecurity.

During my nice little self-pep talk, I told myself that it was ok to not take some things seriously, I did not have to let those things sink into my thoughts and become a reflection of the way I perceive myself. That no matter how hurtful, scary, angering, or disheartening those words are, I do not have to accept them, I do not have to allow them into my heart, and I do not have to allow them into my soul.

I don’t have to riddle my thoughts with drops of acidic negativity just because somebody told me something untrue, something terrible, something insecure or negative. I don’t have to let it affect me or what I do.

I also spoke to myself about how I know what’s best for me, that my decisions are mine and I should not allow others’ opinions to alter my decisions because that is when they falter and fall apart. That I am doing what’s best for me, and only I know what that is.

I assured myself that even though it hurts, those words spoken in such a wry sense of affect don’t have to define me. I can accept what they say as their opinion- not mine.

Not mine.

So, all my beautiful people, the next time somebody says something that makes you down, please, just ask yourself, is what they said really worth altering your opinion of yourself?

Don’t allow what others say to change you. You’re stronger than that.

Stacey

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Me Time

I MADE IT!!!

So here’s what I am- done. Done with trying to find the “deeper meaning” in life, romanticizing it, waiting and hoping and wishing on a star. I’m tired of waiting for things to change and knowing that chances are, they won’t. Not without a little nudge.

I’m tired of waiting on others to change, more accurately. Because they aren’t going to. If I want to implement some kind of change in my life, I have to start with myself. Because I can’t rely on others, I just need to take initiative and change things and move on.

Which, indeed, is what this whole school thing is all about. I have my acceptance letter hung up on my wall. I’m so excited! This will be the change I need, a chance to better myself and start a career, and finally have something I can truly call my own.

So, as these next few months roll on by, I’m focusing on myself, and giving myself some serious “me” time, and giving my life a makeover.

I’m a student!

Stacey

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Change, Heartbreak, Challenge and Desire

I won’t say it. I won’t say that some people should really think over their words before they’re spoken, should take into consideration the effect their words may have on others, and whether their “carefully” chosen words are appropriate in any manner whatsoever.

In other words, I won’t say “STFU already!”

I hate acronyms but damn, did I want to scream that one out loud. Without the “Acronym”.

At what point does the well-meaning individual stop and think, “Gee, trying to convince someone what a bad thing it is to work for their goals is a bad idea.”

There is a difference in a friendly warning that something may go wrong, and spending twenty minutes coming up with every damn excuse you can to cut down that person’s goals, no matter how differing or ridiculous those excuses get as the conversation rolls along.

Because the word “heartbreak” doesn’t just apply to unrequited love and romantic tales.

I’ve tried to shake this and it just won’t go away. The only thing left to do is stop focusing on what others think and continue with my plans as, well, planned.

Easier said than done. I can’t just put my hands over my ears and sing loudly “La La La La La La!!!!” Every time somebody tries to be “well-meaning” with their mouths open a little too wide. People need to realize the old saying “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never harm me” is actually more accurately portrayed this way: “you can’t unspeak your words.”

I’ll tell you, it’s been a hell of a year, and the last three months summarize it perfectly: Change, heartbreak, challenge, and desire.

Desire to succeed in my goals, in life and every aspect of.

Challenge in the way I try to better myself against all odds.

Heartbreak in everything I have lost.

Change… always so much change.

There. Regardless of the circumstances, I’m going forth with my goals, turning a deaf ear to the naysayers and surrendering my doubt once more.

It’s going to be ok.

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